Wise Wednesdays

 We teach others how to treat us—sometimes without realising it. Take Joe the horse in the photo below: he’s been trained to expect treats from pockets. The moment I approached, he started crossing boundaries—nudging and searching for more—which, in this context, was quite amusing. But in human relationships, boundary-crossing isn’t so funny. In our competitive, individualistic culture, many interactions—whether with a partner, sibling, or colleague—are shaped by subtle comparison or competition, making trust harder to cultivate. No matter how ‘nice’ you are, they’ll never trust you 100%—unless you start showing up differently and shift the dynamic. Instead of falling into the trap of being ‘nice’ or overly compliant to keep the peace, try showing up unmasked .  Here’s how: Don’t hide your motivations.  If you’re craving connection or reassurance, ask for it directly. Don’t overshare your problems and then cover it up with humour or pretend you have everything under contr...

Are you feeling the pressure to perform right now? It’s easy to confuse pressure with the need to move faster. But what if pressure was actually a call to deepen your integrity? [Read on or watch the video] Integrity means aligning your actions with your intentions. Yet, it’s easy to live on a treadmill to nowhere, wondering why our real dreams - remain out of reach. You don’t have to sacrifice your dreams. But you might need to slow down to speed up because running faster on the wrong path won’t help. Pausing to realign your actions with your long term intentions will.   Here are three principles of integrity I’ve learned over the past decade to help play the long game while taking care of daily business: [Presence] Meditate an hour a day. If you don’t have time, meditate two hours a day (even 5 minutes counts). Be present in your life. [Power] There’s no such thing as time management—only choice management. Master your focus and energy to cultivate your power of agency (not just...