Wise Wednesdays

  I’ve bought a few more books than usual over pandemic. I’d like to recommend one in particular because it digs deep into a common limiting belief:   “I don’t have time (to do what I want)”.   It’s an insidious belief because it’s so ingrained and quietly leads to:   A constant sense of urgency and stress.   Sacrificing the important things that seem less “urgent” only to realise life is passing by and the right moment to do what you want never comes. Overlooking important details in relationships and work that have a cumulative cost down the line. But you can start saving yourself the stress and time if you give yourself permission to experiment with new beliefs and see that: You have just the right amount of time   You don’t have to do or fix everything The more time you make for the important things, the more time you have. Life starts feeling timeless and self-organising which takes unnecessary weight off your shoulders. But you can start saving yourse...

The word ‘mistake’ comes from the Old Norse ‘ mistaka’ which means ‘to take in error’. Error comes from the Latin ‘to wander about’. (My parents instilled a deep love of languages in me). As the saying goes: to err is human. In other words, there is no such thing as a ‘mistake’ - only a wandering… So-called mistakes are a journey from which you learn the vital information you need to live your unique life. Therefore, the best way to avoid ‘mistakes’ is to understand their true meaning or rather release them from the negative meaning you may have given them. The other way is to stop living and stay small and confined, thinking that you will avoid disappointment. Perhaps this is the only true ‘mistake’. Coaching practice: Use language to your advantage. Try replacing the word ‘ decision’ with ‘ experiment’ in your vocabulary and see how it affects your energy and motivation. Notice what happens to the pressure of having to make the ‘right’ decision. Give yourself permission to stop ma...