Wise Wednesdays

So much has happened in the past week in terms of coaching, travel and experiences. From discussing nuclear energy politics to leading Serious Play and Parallel Worlds group work to my own deep coaching experience in Austria (where I received some concentrated one-to-one attention for 3 days in a row) as well as having fun with friends and family, life feels full and joyful. But coaching isn’t all positive thinking, affirmations and air punching. That’s a misconception. Deep coaching catalyses a transformational process to help you take action towards a big vision by helping you become the person that matches up to the vision (rather than struggling your time away). This is the real work.  You can have it, if you’re willing to be the person who can receive it. And this is where your dark side can help you. It’s a theme that’s been cropping up in conversations these last two weeks… What’s your dark side? Have you ever done something “good” and the...

THE WELL OF GRIEF Those who will not slip beneath
     the still surface on the well of grief, turning down through its black water
     to the place we cannot breathe, will never know the source from which we drink,
     the secret water, cold and clear, nor find in the darkness glimmering, the small round coins,
           thrown by those who wished for something else. David Whyte Crying is such a taboo activity. It stirs much deep within us and yet we worry that tears might taint us with an indelible shame of human weakness. I was reminded of this a few days ago in conversation with a friend who said he hasn’t cried in ten years. It made me wonder how many people might be the same. It also reminded me of my own experiences in the UK where emotionality of any kind was generally seen as negative - anything from weak to unprofessional and an organisational liability. A...