Wise Wednesdays

It's Wise Wednesdays! Should you care what people think or be yourself? Four practices It can be so confusing can’t it? Should you be tuning into and anticipating people’s needs or live more authentically and trust that everything falls into place?... If you’re going for your dream job, should you try and please the boss, impress colleagues and gain favour from influencers or just go about doing what you can and relax? The question is flawed of course. If you’re scientifically/rationally minded like me, you’ll want to examine the assumptions beneath the question… First, it’s pretty much impossible for human beings not to care what others think. We’re social animals and have a natural need for belonging/connection which entails taking into account other people’s desires and actions one way or another. At best, not caring what other people think means not being a people-pleaser i.e. having kind regard or respect for others without ...

It's Wise Wednesdays! We all have times when we feel deflated and as if the wind has left our sails. Sometimes the trigger is obvious e.g. rejection of some kind. Other times, it’s less obvious, which can be frustrating. You’ll wake up one morning and notice that you’ve been feeling a little less excited about life and a tinge of boredom or numbness has crept in. Your mojo has left. Usually these moments of deflation will resolve within days. But when they extend to weeks or months, it can feel quite alarming and provoke anxiety around wasting time – not to mention shame because you’re not getting things done – which will only exacerbate things. So it’s important to catch that reaction to the loss of mojo. Catching the unhelpful patterns is the first step in beginning a transformation of any kind. People might try to be helpful and make suggestions like: “don’t think about things so much”; “go and treat yourself to something” or “just keep putting your best foot f...